I have twin daughters and they are 3 (Nicole and Maddy) and my husband and I are in desperate need. From being an educator, leading after school activities, and maintaining my household I find it very hard to find the right disciplinary actions for our girls. As a child my husband and I were both spanked, but we are trying to find an alternative for our girls. Since the girls are so young everyone assumes they really don't understand their actions and the consequences that comes along with them, but I beg to differ. Yesterday Maddy poured milk all in her sisters hair and when my husband asked her why did she do it she shrugged her shoulders and said "because she wouldn't give me her cookie…please don't make me sit in the purple chair" my husband then asked her would she like it if someone poured milk in her hair. She stated "No, I wana keep my hair pretty"…Now how can you tell me she doesn't know what she is doing. They constantly fight each other and argue over EVERYTHING!!! I've tried giving them time-outs but it's not helping. I have to constantly stop what I'm doing to place them back in time-out because they continue to get up. Does anyone have any suggestions for me??? Please help me with my "DOUBLE TROUBLE"!!!!
Thanks,
A mom who's FED UP!
Thanks,
A mom who's FED UP!
First I have to say your girls are GORGEOUS!!! I can't see how they are causing you so much trouble :) As a single mother of a 4 year old daughter I understand how hard it is to give them time-outs. When I first started my daughter was the same way. She never sat still. I found that explaining to her why she is in time-out and telling her what behaviors I expect and do not expect helps a lot. Whenever I place her in time-out I let her know that I do not like her behavior and I make her apologize. I also remind her of how she can prevent it from helping again. This seems to work very well so maybe you should give it a try.
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